TO OUR CLIENT

As you know, your children are usually the losers when their parents separate; they are deprived of the full-time proper guidance and direction that two parents can give them and that is so necessary for their moral, spiritual and character growth.

Although there is probably bitterness between you, it should not be inflicted upon your children. Every child should and must have in his/her mind an image of two good parents. Your conduct with your children in the future will be very helpful to them, if you will follow these simple suggestions:

1. Do not poison your children's mind against either their father or their mother by discussing the shortcomings of your spouse with your children. This can be extremely harmful to your children.

2. Do not expose your children to any member of the opposite sex with whom you may be involved.

3. Do not use your visitation as an excuse to continue arguments with your spouse.

4. Do not visit your children if you have been drinking.

5. Do not visit your children at unreasonable hours.

6. Do not fail to notify your spouse as soon as possible if you are unable to keep your visitation, as this is unfair to your children who will be expecting you. Be adults and work out another agreeable time of visitation.

7. Make your visitation as pleasant as possible for your children:

a) by not continually questioning them regarding the activities of your spouse;

b) by not making extravagant promises to them that you will not or cannot keep.

8. The parent with whom the children live must prepare the children, both physically and mentally, for the visitation and have them available at the time mutually agreed upon.

9. If one parent has plans for the children that conflict with the visitation and these plans are for the best interests of the children, be adults and work out this problem together.

10. Always work for the spiritual well-being, health, happiness and safety of your children.